Hello All from Codyland,
I have spent the last couple weeks reflecting on our time since July 15th.
We first got the phone call from worm at 1 am about the accident, I remember having to calmly deliver the news to Jesse and while it was sinking in, I immediately began booking tickets to leave California at 5 a.m. We had no idea if Cody would be alive when we landed or not and from what we were told it was highly unlikely. We began making phone call after phone call and receiving phone call after phone call. "In the midst of this chaos, keep stillness inside of you" I remember repeating in my head several times so that I would keep level and calm for Jesse, friends and family calling on the phone.
I remember feeling every part of me tensing up as we exited the plane and made "the call" to see if Cody was still with us. Rushing to the hospitals 3rd floor, turning the corner and seeing everyone standing, sitting, pacing, cringing, sweating, with these looks of helplessness and desperation that mimic-ed ours. I remember just trying to get Jesse to Chelsea and them together to Cody. I remember absorbing the environment around me, the florescent lighting, empty used beds in the hallway, the families passing by crying dazed and lost in fear, I had idle conversation with whomever I was next to at any given time as we wore down the wax on the floor pacing back and forth, I'd listen to the double doors to the NCCU open and close over and over with no new words exiting to comfort, resolve or give us false hopes. Not knowing which one of the passing by families we would soon become. We were all just there, individually lost but together.
Then just as we went from minute by minute, we went to hour by hour, then day by day, moving to week by week and then month to month. We continue on going through the months and the motions, trying to make progress, achieve goals, and make the right decisions in this confusing world of recovery.
Cody and I have been charging through this together for over 4 months now and the day has come where we will be parting ways here on the 22nd Sunday of November. I have pushed for this and the trip to Vermont for a while now to happen and believe me it wasn't that easy, he is a stubborn booger sometimes. Though it will be undoubtedly more difficult for me as I have been the watchful eye, I feel it is the best thing for him to move forward in his recovery and to achieve his goals. I had many conversations with Cody about his recovery and getting on snow. He agreed about getting on snow of course but living with barb's turkey ankle wasn't so easy. I think it best for him to go to Vermont and get on snow so I became relentless about it and I set an absolute date and made him book a ticket. He needs to live and feel his passion everyday to move forward. He WILL NOT be racing but he will be on snow with as minimal risk as possible.
I think this is a key element to his future success in every aspect. Independence has been a theme for the past couple weeks with us although it is all with me supervising, he is doing it, He has been driving the car, again with me in it of course, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, going to the gym everyday etc. He is all grown up now and I will be an empty nester.

Calling and nagging him, checking in too often, sending care packages, checking up on him through friends, inviting myself to visit whenever I want, You know, now that I think about it, I can't wait it will be so much fun to push his buttons. However, I think he will miss me more than he knows. I'm pretty cool and I let him beat me at chess
The good thing is we will see how it goes and we will go month by month. No decision is set in stone. He can go to Vermont and ski see how he feels and we will go from there. We will be playing it by ear. I will be doing all the things above, plus we will still be posting blogs which will keep all 70,000 of us together and informed as we move forward. He has several options and we will be exploring all of them together. So the next month will be difficult for both of us I think, yet exciting, I am looking forward to him getting on the snow and then calling me the moment and I mean the moment he gets off....
So for now until then,
Draven